The tour of local nursing homes was a wake up call for both you and your father.
Your Dad was the one who prompted the visits, as he was certain that he wanted to have plans in place for when he was no longer able to stay in his own home. At the age of 86 your Dad is still going strong but he wants to make sure that he understands what options are available to him. Your father is certain that he does not want to stay in one of the high dollar assisted living options, but he does realize that he will eventually reach the point where he can no longer stay in his home alone. Currently, he does his own cooking most of the week, and he has someone come in a clean the house once a week.